4 Ways Singles Can Celebrate Valentine’s Day

First off, a statement: I have never not been single for Valentine’s Day. Ever. Unless something magical happens in the next 24 hours and 19 minutes, this year is not going to be the exception. And usually I experience some level of depression (Yup, still single), anger (I wish singles would stop ranting about how much it sucks), and glum acceptance (At least there’s cheap candy tomorrow).

I can’t control the holiday’s existence – no matter how much people rant about how commercial it is, it’s not going away. However, I can control my attitude. So the last two years, I’ve been trying to shift myself mentally back into celebrating the holiday for what it’s supposed to be: a celebration of romantic love.

Therefore, I’ve come up with a few ways that singles can celebrate the holiday productively. Holidays shouldn’t be about pity-parties, after all.

1. Make a treat.

Like cookies! Who doesn’t like cookies? The cookies in the photo are my mother’s special mint cookies; they’re a pain to make, but worth it once a year. Tomorrow, I’m bringing them into work. It’s not much, but it makes the day a bit more special for everyone.

2. Throw a party.

No, not a pity party. Round up all the other singles you know and hang out. Eat lots of chocolate, play MASH, and find solidarity. I’m neither throwing nor attending such a party this year, but I know I’ve increasingly been amazed at how not alone in singleness I am. It’s one of the easiest traps to fall into – you attend *another* friend’s wedding and you think, that’ll be everybody else in the world but me. Honestly, though, if you’re ever the only single person you know, you probably need to make more friends. The more I’ve looked around and seen all the singles around me, the more at peace I’ve become with my own perpetual singleness.

3. Treat a married couple.

No, I’m not doing this one either, but only because I didn’t think of it until it’s too late. Here’s the thing: Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a celebration of love. But marriage is really freakin’ hard. So look around you and find an older couple that’s been married for a long time. Preferably, find one of those sweet little old person-type couples who have been married for 50 years or so. Really, the idea is that they are a couple whose marriage has withstood the test of time and is a positive example of what love actually means. Chances are, they weren’t planning on doing anything for Valentine’s day anyway. Buy them flowers and a gift certificate to a local restaurant, and be sure to say that you’re celebrating their love for each other.

Alternately, you could also treat a younger couple out to eat, or possibly babysit for them for free while they date. Will this give you an opening for bitterness? Perhaps. But remember, marriage is tough, and in a lot of ways your freedom as a single is better than their marriage.

Which brings me to my last point:

4. Remind yourself of how awesome it is to be single.

There are a couple of ways you can do this. You might want to read a book about it, for example. Or pick up and do something that you wouldn’t necessarily be able to do if you were seeing someone, like experimenting with a weird food or planning out a mostly spontaneous roadtrip for next weekend. Relationships tie you down, so use Valentine’s Day as a reminder not to waste your freedom.

Those are just a few ideas I had floating around in my head. Any other suggestions?

3 Comments on “4 Ways Singles Can Celebrate Valentine’s Day

  1. I’m annoyed at Valentine’s Day this year because it’s cancelling my Pathfinder game. Stupid guys in my game and their whole “having a girlfriend” thing.

    My old Pathfinder group two years ago also had a game on Valentine’s Day and I think they all made it. Then it occurred to me: of the four guys in that group, only one of them was single. The other three were all married. So that ties back into #3, I think.

  2. Probably more “whole ‘having a girlfriend who doesn’t game’ thing,” right?

    You and Mike should go do something fun tonight. I command it!

  3. So I just saw this a few days late, but high five to you! Pity parties are lame, and I love these ideas.

    As long as I can remember, my boss has always given a rose and chocolate to every woman in the building. Last year, another single co-worker and I started making sure we get him coffee or something, and we started an unofficial tradition of going to lunch together. It makes the day so much more fun.

    So yeah. I can’t hate on Valentine’s Day. Hate is exhausting anyway. Thanks for these ideas… unless there’s some miracle, I’ll probably be stealing them next year! 😉 I love the idea of treating a married couple!